I’m embarrassed that I didn’t say more than before. Mara D brought up so many good points and questions that really ping my heart. I am humbled. I do know the drills you refer to, I remember being “grounded” as a child if I didn’t lose enough weight by the end of the week. It is a brutal brutal world that complicates clouds.
I am new to HAES, perhaps still in the honeymoon phase, but I am LOVING it. The day I was told I could stop counting calories, getting on the scale and limiting what I was eating has been HUGELY liberating. I struggle with the self acceptance piece, which is the cornerstone of the whole process. Not even sure though, if one can actually feel that way all of the time (perhaps another discussion at another time.) I am a part time resident of the negative spiral.
I have also used the opportunity to respond to comments by saying “I am focusing on getting my health back in order at the moment. I’d prefer not to discuss dieting/weight loss, please.” I find it shocks people a little and they tend to get defensive. The challenge is to get to a place where I can tailor my message enough to not offend them while telling to step the heck off the bus. It isn’t their business what i am doing to my body. This is my body, my life and while I hope to treat it well, it is not their business. It think the place that re-frames the vision of beauty, health and a joyful life sounds wonderful.
In terms of the eating choices, piece, I am not there yet, I am eating what I want and loving it. I do work out nearly every day. I do this simply out of pleasure, but what got me here is a journey outside of HAES. I had to find a passion in sport. Something I really enjoyed….and a group of women I love to do it with. More to come. I love this dialogue.